Monthly Archives: February 2009

PENSIONER ON MOTABILITY SCOOTER RESCUED FROM A27!

This happened not a million miles from my home!

Thursday 26th February 2009 

He may be 90 years old, but Stanley Murphy still knows how to live life in the fast lane.

Stunned drivers called police after spotting the pensioner chugging along the A27 in his 8mph mobility scooter.

He was overtaken by cars and lorries doing up to 70mph.

The pensioner took a wrong turn after popping out to buy a newspaper from his home in Mill Lane, Shoreham.

He came off at the Holmbush roundabout and ended up travelling westbound along the A27 towards the Shoreham flyover.

He was spotted by paving company owner James Dunne who pulled his truck over and put on its flashing lights in a bid to stop the pensioner.

Mr Dunne, 46, from Worthing, alerted police and tried to flag down the lost scooter driver.

He said: “The old chap looked pretty confused and scared and looked like he was not going to stop.

“He started to try to overtake me but I got him to pull in.  The police arrived a few minutes later.

“He did not say very much and looked pretty shell-shocked.

“He did not tell me his name but said he was trying to get back to Mill Hill where he lives with his daughter.” Police officers put Mr Murphy in their car and gave him a lift back home.

Mr Dunne put the pensioner’s Atlas mobilty scooter onto the back of his truck and drove it back for him.

The incident happened at about 12.45pm today.

Safely back home, Mr Murphy said: “I went out to get a paper and took a wrong turning.

“I don’t know how I ended up on the A27 but I am thankful to everyone who helped me.” It is believed Mr Murphy travelled along Mill Lane, along the Old Shoreham Road towards the Holmbush roundabout when he took the wrong turn onto the A27.

Mr Murphy was given a lift home by PC Jim Lockwood.

He said: “I would like to thank the members of the public who stopped to help.

“I would also like to thank the driver who put his flashing lights on to prevent the incident worsening and who helped deliver the old gent’s scooter to his home address.” A Sussex Police spokesman said: “An electric mobility scooter is a mechanically propelled vehicle.

“As such it would need to have a number plate and tax disc before it could be legally driven on a main road like the A27.

“However, this gentleman was obviously confused and in the circumstances it is unlikely that we would take any further action.” A spokesman for the Royal Society for the Prevention of Accidents said: “We are very pleased to hear that there was not an accident and the gentleman got home safely.

“We don’t know what caused him to take a wrong turn but a slow-moving mobility scooter is obviously not suitable to be on a very busy three-lane A-road.

“The Highway Code contains an extensive section of advice for mobility scooter users and we would urge anyone who owns one to read it carefully.”

Click here to see a photo of Stanley and his scooter on the road. Thank God he was okay!

DISABLED PEOPLE ON TV.

As regular readers here might know, I was born with a deformed left arm. It is shorter than my other arm and I have no fingers – just little buds where my fingers made an attempt to grow (at least they can be given half a point for trying!).

I can certainly identify with the lady in the Daily Mail articles reproduced below her in so far as, although the majority of people are okay, there have been occasions when the reaction to seeing my hand has been both ignorant and unkind.

The second article is by Alison Lapper, a British artist who was born in 1965 without arms and shortened legs, the result of a medical condition called phocomelia. Rejected by her parents, Alison spent the first 19 years of her life in residential institutions, including Chailey Heritage. Alison became nationally famous in 2005 when a statue of her – pregnant and naked – was erected in Trafalgar Square.

Around the year 1970 or 1971 I used to belong to International Voluntary Service which at the time had a volunteer group operating in Brighton. One of the things we did for a while was visit Chailey Heritage on a Sunday afternoon to play/talk with the children. I wonder if Alison was there then? Maybe I talked with her. I have actually seen Alison out-and-about in more recent times, as she now lives in the same small town as me.

Talking of Chailey, there was a little boy there called Andy who had no arms/legs but who was a right character, really mischievous! He turned up in a TV documentary a few years later, as his dad had made him a special electric chair to help him get around. I believe the documentary said that the family had moved to the US. I wonder how Andy is now – and whether Alison remembers him!

Anyway, I digress! Here are the Daily Mail articles about Cerrie Burnell.

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When Cerrie Burnell landed a role as the new presenter on CBeebies, she was thrilled.

But within weeks of appearing on TV screens hosting Do And Discover and The Bedtime Hour, her joy at her new job was soon tainted by sadness.

The 29-year-old presenter was disappointed when she heard some parents of young viewers had complained to the BBC, claiming she was scaring their children.

Cerrie, who was born with only one hand, was upset by some of the comments, especially when one father said he wanted to ban his daughter from watching CBeebies because seeing Cerrie might give her nightmares.

Despite the furore and initial upset to Cerrie, she insists she is glad it happened because it highlights the prejudice faced by disabled people all the time.

The East Sussex-born presenter told The Sun: ‘I think it’s a positive thing these comments have been made – as people are now talking about disability. That has to be good.

‘I am not amazed or surprised at what people have been saying, nor have I cried or felt dismayed – it is not a personal campaign against me.

‘Sadly, disabled people do face discrimination every day – and this is just an example of those prejudices.’

Cerrie has been defended by parenting and disability groups, who have applauded  the BBC for employing a disabled person.

She said: ‘People are not used to seeing it enough – that is why you have got this kind of fear.

‘If disabled people were represented on TV more, I don’t think there would have been this reaction.’

Responding to some parents’ comments she should wear a prosthetic hand, Cerrie explained: ‘That (the prosthetic hand) was more of a disability than having one hand. Having a prosthetic hand was heavy and quite annoying when you were pretending to be a butterfly.’

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Cerrie Burnell, a disabled CBeebies TV presenter, has found herself the subject of a disturbing online campaign by parents who say she will upset their children. 

Here, ALISON LAPPER, a 43-year-old artist, who was born with no arms and shortened legs, gives an impassioned riposte. Alison became one of Britain’s most recognisable champions of people with disabilities after posing for a sculpture, Alison Lapper Pregnant, exhibited in Trafalgar Square. 

For all those parents who have got themselves worked up about disabled TV presenter Cerrie Burnell, I have a question. Ask yourselves this. Why would your children be scared? 

What would they be scared of, precisely?

Children are beautiful in that they are born with a clean slate – they’re not born with prejudices, they are taught those by adults who should know better. 

Yes, they notice things like this, but if you explain to them that a person has one arm, that she was born like it, and that it’s just one of those things, they say, OK, fine. 

How is the child who is told they can’t watch the programme because of the one-armed presenter going to react when they see a disabled person in the street? Have their parents thought about that? 

The child will come to think that disability is to be shunned or feared, and they will react accordingly. 

And what about the soldiers serving in Afghanistan who lose limbs and come back without arms and legs? 

Have these parents even considered how their children might react to them? I am shocked and really sad about the things said about Ms Burnell, but I can’t say I’m surprised. 

It just proves how narrow-minded some people still are, how much fear there is of disability, even today. 

And why the anonymity on these message boards? If you want to make a point, why not come out and say it? 

These people are hiding behind their prejudices. It’s petty and, frankly, if a parent doesn’t have the skill needed to explain to a child about disabilities, it says more about their own inadequacies than it does about their children. 

I see that at least one parent who made comments this week believes Ms Burnell’s appointment was made out of political correctness, out of the BBC’s determination to show ‘minorities’ on CBeebies. That’s absolute rubbish. 

Think about it. How often do you see a disabled person on television, an actor, or a comedian or a presenter? It’s still very unusual. 

Ethnic minories may benefit from our politically correct culture, but, believe me, disabled people most certainly do not. 

If Cerrie Burnell had been black or from any other ethnic minority, do you think anyone would have dared say the same things about her? Of course not. 

If a person had been that rude about someone of an ethnic minority, they would be called a racist. 

But the disabled are simply not granted the same kind of protection by the conventions of modern society. The sad thing is that a person’s disability should not be an issue. 

It shouldn’t have to be about quotas, or political correctness – if a disabled person is right for the job, they should get it, as simple as that. 
I’ve been reading on the message boards suggestions that Ms Burnell wear a prosthetic arm to make her more ‘normal’, whatever that is. But if she doesn’t want to wear a prosthetic arm, why should she do so just to fit in with an image of what some parents want their children to see? 

Sadly, I know all about prejudice, I’ve had it all my life. People say things about me all the time. I can often hear what they say – they don’t even try to keep it out of earshot.

But even though I’m used to it, it still blows my mind when it happens. How can people be so frightened? 

I’ve thought about it a lot, but I still don’t know why there is such fear of disabled people. 

There was a strong kneejerk reaction to the sculpture of me when it went up in Trafalgar Square. 

It was slated, of course. People only started reacting more positively when they heard my personal story. 

I was rejected by my mother and grew up in a home for disabled children. That’s one bit of progress we’ve made. They don’t lock us away out of sight in institutions any more. 

After the initial negative comments about the sculpture, I had a really amazing reaction to it from people who actually went to see it. I was down there quite a bit with film crews and so on and I’d be approached by people, young and old, who said they loved it, and thought it was amazing. 

But on a day-to-day level, I still get all the prejudices. There is something about being disabled that makes people say the most impertinent things to you, and about you. 

For example, when I was pregnant with my son Parys, now nine, people would come up to me while I was out and about in the street or at the supermarket. 

When a woman is pregnant the usual question is something like, is it a girl or a boy? With me they would say: ‘Is the baby going to be like you?’ 

Or they’d ask: ‘How was the baby conceived?’ I’d reply: ‘I’m not going to tell you the facts of life.’ 
It’s a good job I have a sense of humour, because in my situation you need one. Parys notices people talking about me more than I do. 

He knows what people are like and it really upsets him. He’s had to learn a hard lesson. 

The parents who have opposed Cerrie Burnell’s appearances on TV are helping to ingrain prejudice against disability – the kind of prejudice which is fuelling this terrible modern phenomenon of ‘disability genocide’, in the sense that a woman can look at her pregnancy scan and if the baby is disabled she can choose to have a termination. 

I know which way my mother would have gone if she’d had the choice. I’m just grateful they didn’t have those scans back then. 

I would hope that things are getting better, slowly, but this sad business about Cerrie Burnell confirms to me that we still have an awfully long way to go.

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THIS IS ANOREXIA AWARENESS WEEK.

Last week I accidentally happened upon a website belonging to a girl who is at this moment in the grip of anorexia. It made a big impression on me, partly because the owner of the blog (who has called herself Susie Belle) lives in my part of the world. The blog is called Seeking Sanity.


As a result of looking at Susie’s blog, I decided to update my links relating to Anorexia and, in the course of so doing I discovered that this is Anorexia Awareness week. I was planning to do an anorexia-related post every day starting Monday. Unfortunately though, I became unwell during the course of Sunday night. My husband decided to work from home as well (although he is at a meeting this morning, hence my being able to crawl to do this post!). Given that hubby is working from home more and more these days – and daughter is wanting to use the computer to do her Computer Driving License course – time for blogging is like gold dust, even when I am not in the grips of the dreaded lurgy (which I seem to be most of the time, at the moment!)

Anyway, I am going to do another post to include my updated anorexia links. I wish Susie all the best. Our family’s short encounter, brief though it was (thanks be to God!), certainly taught me what an awful, awful thing it is – both for the sufferer and the parents.

Here’s a video about anorexia: –


The music from the video is  ‘Courage’ by Superchick. 

Here are the lyrics: –


I told another lie today

And I got through this day

No one saw through my games
I know the right words to say
Like “I don’t feel well,” “I ate before I came”
Then someone tells me how good I look
And for a moment, for a moment I am happy
But when I’m alone, no one hears me cry

I need you to know
I’m not through the night
Some days I’m still fighting to walk towards the light
I need you to know
That we’ll be OK
Together we can make it through another day

I don’t know the first time I felt unbeautiful
The day I chose not to eat
What I do know is how I’ve changed my life forever
I know I should know better
There are days when I’m OK
And for a moment, for a moment I find hope
But there are days when I’m not OK
And I need your help
So I’m letting go

I need you to know
I’m not through the night
Some days I’m still fighting to walk towards the light
I need you to know
That we’ll be OK
Together we can make it through another day

You should know you’re not on your own
These secrets are walls that keep us alone
I don’t know when but I know now
Together we’ll make it through somehow
(together we’ll make it through somehow)

I need you to know
I’m not through the night
Some days I’m still fighting to walk towards the light
I need you to know
That we’ll be OK
Together we can make it through another day

ALL THINGS PASS.

All things pass

A sunrise does not last all morning



All things pass

A cloudburst does not last all day

Nor a sunset all night



All things pass


What always changes?



Earth . . . sky . . . thunder . . .

mountain . . . water . . .

wind . . . fire . . . lake . . .



These change


And if these do not last


Do man’s visions last?

Do man’s illusions?



Take things as they come

All things pass



— Lao Tzu

Translated by Timothy Leary